Tag Archives: Relationships

I’M OVER IT

Black Heart

I’m sure some of you have noticed by my recent posts and tweets, that yes, I’ve been going through a rather nasty breakup…but that’s ok. I’ve been going out with the same guy for two years now and our relationship has been rocky from the start.  We’re good, even great for several months at a time until some pathetic event triggers explosive, WWIII-type fights.  Fighting is never healthy for any relationship for too many reasons to even bother listing.  A relationship should be about support, trust, love, laughter, commitment, dedication, companionship and partnership.

I finally opened my eyes a few weeks ago and have come to see that if any of these elements are rusty or not there at all, IT’S NEVER GOING TO WORK.  Most importantly, if you and your partner have “broken up” at all, it’s easier to walk away the next time there’s a fight and that’s just not healthy for both of you.  Writing about my feelings seems to get a lot of anxiety off my chest but not everybody enjoys writing or being open about personal situations.  Being open helps you realize that maybe it’s not you and maybe it’s not your partner, it’s just the chemistry between you two.  Take a peek at your zodiac matches.

In the meantime, try to forget about relationships all together if you’ve experienced a recent breakup; a rebound partner is never a good idea.  Period.  That rebound person is going to end up getting hurt and think there’s something wrong with them when in fact, the problem is you because you didn’t give yourself enough time to move on and feel self-assured and confident again. I’m whipping myself into shape because when I look at myself in the mirror and see somebody I’m pleased to look at everyday, I know that I’m good enough for me so somebody else will eventually think so too. Think about your own future and the good things you have to look forward to instead of looking back at the bad things.

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The ADHD Talk

Ask almost any college student if they know what adderall  is and I guarantee that 90% of them would answer “yes.”  Adderall, as described by drugs.com, contains a combination of amphetamine and dextroamphetamine which are central nervous system stimulants that affect chemicals in the brain and nerves that contribute to hyperactivity and impulse control.   It’s a prescription drug used to control narcolepsy and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD); adults can also have ADHD and in fact, up to half of the adults diagnosed with the disorder had it as children but when the ADHD persists into adulthood, the symptoms vary and the individual often has problems with interpersonal relationships and employment.

There are three different categories of ADHD symptoms: inattention,  hyperactivity and impulsivity.  Those who suffer with the disorder know exactly what it’s like to try to sit patiently for a half hour, even ten minutes, to attempt to proactively keep their room clean, to pay attention when someone is talking, to finish an assignment without making stupid mistakes and worst of all, to procrastinate on almost everything there is to do.  I made it through my adolescent life with a lot of help from my parents but as soon as I left for college, I knew it wasn’t going to be an easy four years.  I managed to barely pass my classes for two years with the help of my first college boyfriend but the symptoms took a large toll on our relationship and in his words, “he got tired of babysitting me.”  School became so difficult for me without any structure or authority figure in my life that I spiraled out of control and took the year off.

Last year was the first year of my college life that I brought home decent grades.  How did I manage to turn things around?  My randomly selected roommate had ADHD and was prescribed a form of adderall.  She and I became close friends because we were so much alike and could understand each other, unlike a lot of other people who judged us for being impatient, disorganized, impulsive and “stupid.”  I had a long talk with my mom and finally went to the doctor about the problems I had been having.  I might not be a super-being now or even close to as organized and proactive as a “normal” peer but I am getting through my last semester and fifth year in college, realizing I am different and there will eventually a  perfect job out there for me.